There was one Chinese boyfriend who told me, flat out, that his parents would never accept me.
I don’t doubt he loved me in the beginning — but once his family knew, I suspect they made it clear that there was no future in what we had.
This comment wouldn't bother you or even spew out your mouth or even come as a thought in your head... Everyone's wired differently and marriage is a journey, a struggle and hard work but also a fantastic experience.
Women who understand what it's like to be married to someone with Aspergers - no one else can even begin to understand the challenge. She is trying to understand and reach out for help. There were some arguments that I now understand were down to mutual misunderstanding from our brains being "wired differently" .Many of the people at the adult Asperger's support groups I go to comment that their diagnosis made their marriages to their NT partner much happier. It points out that both people in the relationship need to work at understanding the other. Or times when we both felt a little unloved or uncared for because we didn't recognise the way the other was expressing their love.With a few exceptions, Asian men on screen have been small, sneaky and threatening — or spineless, emasculated wimps, or incompetents who may well be technically proficient in martial arts, but impotent when faced with white man’s superior strength or firepower. Even today, Asian American men complain that action heroes such as Chow Yun Fat and Jackie Chan rarely get the girl.As Leong, the author and UCLA professor put it: “Asian men can kick butt, but they can’t have a kiss.” It gets a little more personal in blogs, such as posts titled Us Bitter, Bitter Asian Men or Sucks to be an Asian male. I’ve had Chinese guys refuse me because they felt, as a traditional man, they could never see themselves married to a foreign girl.My partner has aspergers and honestly its not much of a relationship.
When I’m in China, I tend to turn a lot of heads, especially in the countryside — and that’s not just because I’m a foreigner.
However, the subtext is often that foreign women are a dangerous choice — too casual, the temptress, etc — or could not accept a Chinese way of life.
Generally, the pressure to split up comes from the family since, after all, in China, marriage is a family affair.
I must say this has been the biggest challenge in my entire life. This gives me time to calm down and think about how I want to say something.
Although I do love my husband dearly, I am finding myself slipping into feelings of resentment quite often. Also, you need to give logistical reasons for things, at least I do.
I'll assume that your husband has the normal high IQ common amongst folks with AS, and if so you can use that to your benefit to help him learn how to relate to you and "behave" in a more neuro-typical way.