In short, don't rub it under the other person's nose if you're having sex with someone else. Rule Number 5 is "my house, my rules." It's nice when your f*ck buddy invites you over for the night — but you shouldn't expect it.
If you assume you're staying and they ask you to leave things can turn sour very quickly.
When the relationship ended, I didn't want a new boyfriend straight away and I definitely wasn't ready to fall in love again.
We both know what I'm really asking for but it takes the pressure off and makes it sound more casual.
This is Rule Number 7: "learn and use double-speak!
Don't confuse the situation by acting like a romantic couple. Don't obsess over what they're doing/thinking and refrain from constantly talking about your emotions. I personally would never invite my sex buddy to hang out with my friends or family — that's too close to being a proper couple and can lead to annoying gossip and speculation.
Instead, treat them like a friend who you just happen to have sex with. You'll just suck the fun out and turn it into a bad relationship. Likewise, you shouldn't talk too much about your social life with your sex buddy; it's better to keep some separation between the two.
My name is Polly and I'm a big believer in the concept of sex buddies.
Finding a willing and able sex buddy is only part of the challenge though.
I've also included the eight main rules that I've learnt along the way.
But first, let me give you some background information so you know where I'm coming from.
That said, the guy should definitely offer to walk or drive the girl home to ensure she got there safely.
Likewise, if you ring up the girl for a booty call in the middle of the night, you should arrange a taxi for her.
If you do stay the night, it should happen naturally.