“The first year is when you and your partner are getting to know each other's personalities and determining whether you see a future with them or not.” Naturally, there will be some push and pull here.
The number of couples who call it quits after a year or so is staggering. Executive editor and founder of Cupid's Pulse Lori Bizzoco tells Bustle that a piece in the Washington Post in March “reported on a study that indicated about 70 percent of straight unmarried couples break up within the first year.” Yeah, that’s high.
Well, as it turns out, there are actual statistics to which we can look to answer this question.
“Both partners relax, and stop being on their best behavior.” But this isn’t all good.
“Old family habits assert themselves, and they begin to disagree about things they were tolerant of before,” she says.
So why is it that people are so prone to splits in the beginning?
Here's what nine relationships experts had to say about the matter.“The first year of a relationship can be a very exciting time, but it doesn't come without challenges,” Bizzoco tells Bustle.
“It takes more than a year to truly know if you and your partner are compatible; however, it takes less than a year to know if your partner is worth the effort of love.” They might be worth the effort, but if you aren’t compatible, you won’t likely last the test of time.
Just like we’re more likely to break up with someone around the one year mark, we’re also more likely to split up during certain holidays and such.
Psychologist Nicole Martinez, who is the author of eight books, including The Reality of Relationships , tells Bustle that there are certain times of year that are breakup-prone.
According to a study by Hephzibah Asolu, we most often split around Valentine’s day, in the spring, on April fool’s day (what?!
“For instance, we know that around the three-to-four-month mark, we know that the representative [image] typically fades away.” By then, you really start seeing your partner.