"This guy's going to go into a full-court press right away.
He will start texting you five times a day; he will try to completely occupy and dominate your time very quickly," says Frances.
A guy who wants to really be in a relationship with you and is really ready for a partnership doesn't need to push like that.
Give him the opportunity to show you how he feels with no assistance or pushing or convincing."Men will start ramping up their displays of courtship for you over the next few dates if they get really excited about you.
He's going to hopefully be texting you, emailing you, and trying to lock you down for another date.
If this happens as soon as you exchange numbers on a dating app, before you've even had a single date, then you'll know he's just buttering you up for sex.
"He will start creating a romantic fantasy via text that will allow you to feel like you're more romantically connected than he's earned by actually taking you out on dates.
He'll be stepping up his romantic gestures: If you met at a bar on the first date, what I want to see is that he's taking you out to dinner or planning something more extravagant for the second or third date.
A man who's really trying to date you in a respectful way won't hook up with you on a second or third date.If you're just looking for sex, then carry on, but if not, how can you tell if a guy is really right for the long-term?Lauren Frances is one of my favorite relationship experts, and she happens to focus on these particular struggles in her books and one-on-one coaching.It's not always easy to tell the difference between a guy who's wants a relationship with you and one who's wrapped up in the moment. Lust is a powerful thing, and some men will do just about anything in the sweet spot between "nice to meet you" and "sex." Closing the gap between point A and B can be a goal some men pursue with the same vigor as Roger Federer practicing for, playing in, and attempting to win Wimbledon, for example.They may get carried away and act like you're the be-all and end-all, only to lose interest or show their true colors as soon as you sleep together.In fact, she's known for helping women weed out the wrong men right on the first date.