So most advice will show you how to break your poor little introverted girlfriend/boyfriend out of their shell. Introverts Need Space You need to balance the time you spend with your introverted partner and the time you allow them to spend alone. Life as an introvert is different than life as an extrovert. Some introverts work to build a social life, while others prefer to ride solo most of the time.
You shouldn’t take offense when your significant other wants to spend some time alone.
Introverts Want to be Understood Introverts spend much of their life observing and trying to understand others. In return, we want you to them not always wanting to tag-along, you are approaching this with the wrong attitude.
It’s important to find hobbies or interests that you two share so both of you are having a great time together.Whatever your common interest is, keep this between the two of you.I don’t mean keep it a secret – unless it’s something you guys don’t want to share.I mean, try to do that activity exclusively with each other.It’s ok to share common hobbies with friends, but introverts love to have a hobby that they only share with one special person.
It could be anything from taking walks, to cooking on Sunday afternoons, to watching a particular show… They say opposites attract and I’ve found that to be true.
However, if they refuse to hang out with your friends or family than they are being selfish.
There needs to be an effort to find balance from both sides.
Don’t Expect Them to ALWAYS Tag-Along I know you want them to go with you everywhere, but the relationship won’t work if you expect them to always want to tag-along. Instead of meeting all 20 of your friends at once, try to find activities to introduce them to smaller groups at a time. Introverts like to get to know people individually and it’s very overwhelming to try to get to know 20 new people in one evening.
Once they’ve become closer with your friends and family, you still shouldn’t expect them to always join you at social gatherings. Just because they don’t want to hang out every chance they get doesn’t mean they don’t like your friends or family.
They have spent too much time observing people to fall for any of the typical tricks or games that get played. They will not open up to you if you aren’t being yourself, period.