‘In Germany I never been single for longer than a few months, I had never had problems about dating a guy.
I’ve been living here since 6 months now and I didn’t have a serious date yet.
She seems to be clueless in situations where her charisma doesn’t work as expected.
A guy says that it’s very hard for him to have good relationships with Japanese women.‘My biggest problem is that most girls my age (~25) are very childish’, he points out.I’m currently the only Western female student here, so I get quite some attention, even from other foreign students.But Japanese guys are still a big mystery to me’, she writes.It is commonly believed that dating in Japan is easy for non-Asian (particularly white) men and hard for women.
I came across a blog post by zoomingjapn, a German girl living in Japan, writing about dating in Japan as a foreigner. She writes, ‘It is comparably easy for a western foreign man to find a Japanese woman or to have a nice relationship here in Japan’, but ‘it is extremely tough to find a date as a foreign woman here in Japan.’ Her story is interesting in itself but the most interesting part of the article is the huge number of comments gets – 162 comments (or about 30,000 words! A lot of people who commented actually disagree with her.On my last page, I told him that it’s his story now and that there are still many white pages that can be filled.’ It might be obvious to many people but doing all this to a guy who is not interested (and possibly not used to dealing with girls) is not only ineffective but also counterproductive. If he was experienced in dating, he could have said something like, ‘I know that you are interested in me but I just don’t see you that way.I appreciate that you are making an effort but I don’t think it’s going to work. ’ But there’s only so much you can expect from a Japanese computer science major boy. ‘Over three weeks later that he completely ignored the whole thing’, she writes. ‘All of my friends told me that this is just such a wonderful present that he has to fall in love with me’, she writes.I wrote him many cute love letters in Japanese and English but he didn’t reply for many months.After some time I finally asked him in person and he told me that he can’t date me because we work in the same team.’ Clearly, he was not interested but she wasn’t giving up. I made him a Bento, baked a cake for him and organized a super-fun birthday party for him a few weeks ago.Then the real question is this: what is the difference between successful and unsuccessful people?