Since becoming more prominent in my career would naturally make me a more powerful character, men would find my persona/success too intimidating and hence back off from pursuing me, rather than consider me romantically.Note that I do have men expressing and/or showing interest in me on an ongoing basis; many times I’m flattered by the attention I get from some guys.Work-wise, I beat hundreds if not thousands to secure a place in a top multinational corporation (Procter & Gamble) two years before I was supposed to graduate.
The further I “climbed”, the harder it seemed for me to find a guy who could match my achievements.
People often speak of the archetypal lone career woman who is highly accomplished yet barren in her love life, and I could see myself gradually trawling into this direction.
Depending on how things go, I’m possibly going on another long trip this year, scouring places like India, South Africa, and South America.
You can say that these “accomplishments” are atypical of an average person, much less a girl from Singapore.
Since my early 20s (I’m 28 at this point of writing), I’ve been regarded as a “power woman”.
I can understand the source of these comments, for I’ve achieved certain noteworthy milestones in my life.
Nothing big like earning one million or one billion dollars, but still things I’m proud to have achieved nonetheless.
For example, in school, I was a Dean’s Lister and graduated top in my specialization of Marketing.
Some friends have gone as far as to tell me that I’m the smartest / most capable person they’ve ever met, which I think is the biggest compliment anyone can ever receive.
I’ve constantly been described as “smart”, “intelligent”, “courageous”, “driven”, “powerful”, “strong”, “highly developed”, “capable”, “intellectual”, “career-driven”, and at times, “fearless”.
While I am totally okay and at peace with being a single (I would rather be single than be with someone whom I don’t like), I don’t want to end up as that archetype if I can have my way. Deep down, I thought there was something wrong with me as a woman.