I speculated that the women writing to me were subject to some kind of wishful thinking or tunnel-vision, by which they focused only on the good in their boyfriend rather than the advantages of other men. A woman couldn't wishfully think herself into a degree of love so strong that she would feel compelled to write me for help.
By "love" I mean deep romantic attraction, as opposed to lust or long-term attachment.
Lust is primary, physical and fleeting for both sexes, and long-term attachment takes years of shared experience to develop in either sex.
I believe this is true for a couple reasons: Other data, such as a woman's religious or political beliefs, her social class, her family, etc.
are either immediately available to a man via conversation, or else far less significant in garnering his attraction.
Also, I am not saying that this is the only way women fall in love, or the most common.
I recognize that women can experience something closer to "love at first sight." The important thing to recognize is that you cannot expect (much less make) a man gradually fall in love with you in the same way that you might fall in love with a man. Male romantic love is something that either starts early and continues, or else doesn't start at all.So, in general, a man can evaluate a woman quite quickly. Many of a woman's triggers for romantic love are less immediate: In other words, while a man judges his woman primarily in relation to himself, which he does quite quickly, a woman evaluates her man on how he relates to the outside world, and this takes longer.In addition, and perhaps more importantly, a woman needs to gauge her man's reliability, and this demands time.I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men.If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female's ignorance of the male mindset.The statistics for White-Asian interracial marriages in the San Francisco Bay Area are even more extreme - something like a 4 to 1 ratio for White males versus Asian males.)As a result, the odds are against Asian males romantically.