The thought of your ex being with someone else is a gut wrenching one.
Nobody wants to be with someone they don’t respect.And even if they do come back, they will leave shortly realizing they have no respect for you as a person.In fact, the more you smother them, the more trapped they’ll feel.And that will just make them want to get away from you as soon as possible.Whatever the reason for breakup was, it’s not going to change with your begging. Your instincts will tell you that your needs, your values, your desires, your goals don’t matter. In fact, it’s only going to make your ex respect you less.
The only thing that begging will do is make you look like a weak and insecure person. Your instincts will tell you that the only thing that matters is to get your ex back. How can they respect you if you don’t respect yourself?I have seen people make these mistakes over and over again (in my five years of experience helping people with breakups).Having a plan gives you a sense of direction and removes all the confusion. I call this part “The Instincts” because all these mistakes are a direct result of people following their instincts.Your instinct fool you into thinking that your interaction with your ex will go something like this. You should be extremely careful whenever you go out drinking.You might end up calling your ex and making a fool of yourself.We will get into that later, but first, let’s take a look at how your instincts react when you find out your ex is dating someone else.