We’re pretty good at detecting phoniness or hidden agendas, so being honest and open is one of the best ways to impress us. We have plenty of our own weaknesses, of which many of us are highly aware.What INFJs are Like in Relationships I may have painted us to be quite a demanding group of people, and maybe you’re thinking “wow! Personal weaknesses are easily overlooked, but if you degrade or criticize one of our deeply held values it’s not likely to go so well.Yes, intuitives and intuitives tend to inherently understand each other’s perceptions better, as do sensors and sensors.
I’ve been putting off writing about the INFJ and compatibility in relationships for a while.
Maybe it’s because I felt like it would be a little conceited to talk about how awesome INFJs are in relationships when I am one.
An INFJ would passionately cling to a life of singleness over being married to someone, or dating someone, who they feel little passion or depth of feeling for.
INFJs are very independent, and while we long for a partner and soulmate in life, we have very little tendency to be desperate or to “settle” for anything less than someone with whom we share a very deep connection.
Guardians (SJ types) can feel like a stable force in the INFJs life since INFJs are prone to feeling scattered and of two minds about many things.
In turn, the INFJ can add some creativity and intensity to the relationship that the guardian admires and appreciates.
Ideally, since we are always on a quest for personal growth, we want a partner who is seeking this same kind of personal or spiritual growth.
We want to see the dark and light side of a person, not just the side you to show us. Once we’ve made the decision to commit to a relationship with you, we will love you unreservedly and passionately – seeing the best that’s in you, and overlooking a multitude of weaknesses.
We want to be the “perfect” partner, and we tend to want our partner to be the “perfect” soulmate.
We want someone who will make the effort to truly know us (which can take a while as we’re very private), and someone who will listen to our greatest hopes and dreams and ambitions.
This, for us, is a way of being generous and authentic with our partners. Because their feeling function is extraverted, they will easily understand other people’s feelings, but be unable to decipher their own.