If you and your boyfriend have reached an age and stage of life where marriage is a feasible option, we'd encourage you to think seriously about setting a date for the wedding.
Focus on the Family's Counseling staff would be more than happy to discuss your situation with you over the phone.
Resources Sacred Sex: Embracing Your Sexuality as God Designed It Boundaries in Dating Sex 180: The Next Revolution And the Bride Wore White: Seven Secrets to Sexual Purity Passion and Purity: Learning to Bring Your Love Life Under Christ's Control Understanding God's Sacred Design for Sex Referrals PREP, Inc.
Of course, you cannot maintain holistic boundaries without specific lists and rules.
To throw away specificity for idealism is to blunder headlong into impurity.
If sexual purity is important to you, there's no reason to place yourselves in the way of these daily temptations.
On the other side of the coin, if you aren't committed to marriage, or if you're not ready to assume the practical responsibilities it requires, why are you walking down this road in the first place? If you'd like some help sorting out these issues, call us.It isn't that popular Christian conceptions of dating boundaries are too big, but that their scope is too small. It will draw boundaries that reflect the full personhood of each individual by showing concern for every aspect of each individual—personal, emotional, moral, and sexual, to name only a few of those many interrelated aspects. Personal agency maintained by good boundaries furnishes romantic intimacy with meaning and substance.We ask physical and quantitative questions: “How many inches can I move my hand? So here are some ways to think about not only physical boundaries but also several fundamental aspects of personhood. Love presupposes freedom, and freedom presupposes the relational safety to say “no.” (2) Emotional boundaries promote relational health.Kissing and cuddling while in a Christian dating relationship, Pastor Jim shares his thoughts about physical contact while dating. Aside: We have more than a few testimonials (including Carolyn and Marty – “Our first kiss was at the altar” – and Veronique and Thomas – “And, yes, that [wedding] day we exchanged our very first kiss on the lips”) of couples who waited until their wedding day to have their first kiss. Today I received an email asking whether or not kissing and cuddling are considered a sin. Give this advice piece a read and let us know your thoughts in the comments below!When it comes to physical expressions of affection before marriage, how far is "too far"?