We asked Aaron for his tips on how to ask your new guy or girl if they're sleeping with other people.
Although being upfront about what you're looking for can be a good tactic, be aware that asking a new guy or girl for a commitment too soon may feel like an interrogation, says Aaron.
In every relationship, there comes a point where you have to say those five little words: Are you seeing other people?
"When it gets to that level of frequency, it’s a fair question because you’re taking up a lot of each other’s time." According to Aaron, it's best to focus on the present, rather than have a potentially freaky conversation about the future. "I think people are much better off asking present-oriented questions like, "Are you dating other people at the moment? "I hear it all the time that people aren’t using condoms like they should, but that’s playing with your health," Aaron says.
At the end of the day, you need the facts about the person you're seeing so that you can make empowered decisions about your sex life.
Nearly everyone who makes that decision figures that because of they are deeply in love with someone else, everything balances out in the end.
Unfortunately, it rarely, if ever, turns out that way.
However, when it came, it captured his/her heart and they fell in love with someone else.
If you suspect your spouse of having an affair, take the Affair Test after reading this article to get a good idea if your fears are justified.
Some are honest enough with themselves that they know step-by-step how everything came to be as it is now.
Others have more difficulty, their mind confused because what they are doing is so contrary to what they believe and value. Others blame it on their spouse’s actions or lack of actions.
Maybe you describe this new relationship similar to the way others I’ve worked with: Most likely your desire is not to hurt the person you’re married to, but rather to live in this new level of love that you never knew existed.
You don’t mean to harm family, friends, coworkers, church buddies, or anyone else.
Your desire is (There may be an exception to that if you feel that your spouse has been unkind or hurtful.