But pretty quickly we realized how much bigger, broader and more diverse the community that Her should be for, was.
Not just the people that were using it but how they were using.
Who wouldn’t want to be in that pile of cute women?
Whether it’s Fluid, Lesbian, Bisexual, Pansexual you name it, in dating, any label is better than none." So, with my ideal eight pictures uploaded, and my sexual orientation labeled, I waited for the likes to roll in. About two minutes after I finished signing up, someone wanted to chat, which meant she liked one of my photos.
Unsurprisingly, it was the photo of my dog trying to lick my face.
(Thanks, buddy.) I went to her profile, and she was incredibly attractive, which made me think, "Wow, I am so blessed to be queer." She also had over eight photos, which did not bother me.
While I was messaging her, I scrolled through other profiles.
I will never stop feeling like my thumbs are too big to navigate an i Phone. My first message on Her was this stunningly creative gem: "Hey how was your weekend? Once I got over the initial fear of liking photos, I became a photo-liking fiend.
I scrolled through hundreds of photos of Her users, liking photos of a chef, a dancer, a medical student, and dozens of pet owners posing with their fur-babies. In the week that I was hacking the app, Her announced a major change—an option to list your gender on your profile.
You also have to allow Her to access your location, but if you have a phone someone already knows exactly where you are all the time anyway, so with that pleasant thought in mind, I hit "Allow." This should’ve been an easy step, but somehow I don’t have eight pictures of myself taken in the last year.
Should I take more pictures, or should I delve into the Body Positive Selfie Archives of my late college years?
I generally use Tinder/Bumble all the dating apps possible and meet as many people as I can.
I’m terrible at dating in general, but my go-to online dating move is to get a message from someone cute, and never ever respond. So, when Robyn Exton, the CEO at Her (stylized as HER), a dating app centered on lesbian, bi, and queer women, asked me if I was interested in their latest study on the best hacks for their app, a small, scathing, and very single voice inside me hissed, "You need this." The PR photos didn’t hurt.
I compromised and took one new horrible picture and used two old pictures that kind of still look like me.