And it's not to deny the possible importance of other childhood experiences. In terms of dating, people tend to pair up with those who either further or complement their scripts, the former being the one-sided kind of relationship.
If the scripts are good, fine; if the scripts are bad or incompatible, not so good. I really hate those silly daytime talk shows and magazines that try to impose certain rules when it comes to relationships (as well as gender roles/stereotypes.) You should just be yourself - be free to ask someone out no matter what your gender.
I share this here with the hope that it may help folks find comfort when dating and entering into a new relationship...Just prior to celebrating one of the BIG birthdays I did some soul searching and admitted that I had been approaching dating from the wrong perspective.I had always tried to entice and seduce men, using my physical appearance and feminine wiles (which I believed to be all that I had to offer a man), until I recognized the hazardous pattern of deception I was weaving.Needless to say, my past relationships were never quite right.You need someone with whom you can reveal your authentic self, not just a piece of you—and you are the only one who can bring that full you to the table.
I am so glad someone is finally blowing all the horseshit out there in the dating world out of the water.When looking for a mate, being one's self is not going to guarantee landing "the prize", but if you feel good about yourself, the odds of attracting a suitable partner get much better.Scripts are a key component of the branch of social psychology known as transactional analysis (TA), which no one talks about anymore.When it comes to courting and dating, popular longstanding advice suggests that until the fish is on the hook, it is beneficial to adhere to certain "rules."These rules seem to offer a recipe for finding commitment and true romantic partnership, but what they invariably deliver is lopsided loving.In my experience treating couples and individuals, many hope that if they "play the game" correctly, their prince or princess will be the prize.I can totally relate to how you used to approach dating, feeling like you only have your appearance to offer. Your comment has really made me think about my self-worth and how I interact with men... The reality is, both genders are addicted to scripts that were forged from early life history experiences.