In the immediate aftermath of a breakup, people often date as a form of romantic validation, especially if were the one rejected.
However, the circumstances are remarkably similar when you were dating back then! You know that you it’ll be better in the long run for you to find a new, loving relationship, but should you jump straight back into dating? There are two schools of thought:– If you’d like a new relationship, it’s completely down to you.
Just like dating when you were younger, finding a relationship should be done completely on your own terms.
When a relationship comes to a close, particularly slightly later on in life, many of us wonder how long we should wait, if at all, to start dating.
In your 20s and 30s relationships might have been coming and going rapidly amongst you and your friends, but later on in life this naturally cools down a little.
“Almost like trying a new flavor of ice cream,” Spira says.
Defrost the ice of your breakup, and figure out your feelings the best you can.
However your last relationship ended, this is a decision for you, and you alone.
– It’s a fact of life that just like dating in your younger years, motivation for dating ebbs and flows.
There’s no harm in putting out some feelers into the online dating world and seeing what comes back; you can always decide to take things as slowly as you like until you’re ready to find that special someone looking for the same thing as you are.
There’s an old saying that in order to get over someone, you have to get under someone new.
Ever since, I’ve doubted the conventional “wisdom” of getting over someone by getting under someone new. Feelings can change and overlap, die suddenly or rush back.